A sexy smile, good hands, rhythmic hips — no doubt, your guy has what it takes to get you off. But there's one more thing that can seriously up your odds of climaxing. Experts agree that personal lubricant, aka lube, can make every aspect of sex more satisfying.
"With a little extra lube, every touch and thrust will feel smoother and more pleasurable," says Eric Garrison, a consulting sexologist in New York City and Boston and author of Mastering Multiple-Position Sex. And because you're wetter, your partner will feel more confident, which will inspire him to try new moves and positions.
That's just the beginning. Here, find out why this liquid accessory should always be within reach of your bed.
It Has O-Boosting Potential
In an ideal world, your body would provide enough natural lubricant to keep you slick from the moment he slides his hand between your legs to that last frenzied moment of intercourse. Unfortunately, that's just not likely. "There's a myth out there that if a woman is completely aroused, she'll get really wet and stay that way," says sex therapist Debra Macleod, author of Lube Jobs: A Woman's Guide to Great Maintenance Sex. "But the fact is that you can be turned on and either not get wet enough or even experience desertlike conditions down south."
The reason: Things like medications or being slightly dehydrated can prevent you from getting moist. Or your body may simply not be able to produce lubrication at a fast enough rate to keep up with the action. And if you're not wet enough, penetration will start to — ouch — chafe.
But adding lube doesn't just prevent sex from hurting; it also helps the two of you maintain the steady rhythm most women need to orgasm. "When you're wet, he can thrust continuously, and it's easier for him to vary the speed," says Macleod. "That extra stimulation will help build sexual tension and bring you to climax."
Why It'll Be His New Best Friend Too
Think about the hottest days of summer, when you're walking around and your thighs stick together — that's pretty much what it feels like for your guy when he tries to enter you when you're not wet. And psychologically, dryness can have an even more negative and traumatizing effect on his libido. "While a guy may logically know that a woman's wetness has nothing to do with his sexual prowess, subconsciously, he still may think he's not good enough in bed to arouse her," says Natasha Janina Valdez, a sex therapist in Los Angeles. "But lube lets him forget about that fear and focus on how good everything feels."
Most men will have no problem with trying something new. But on the off chance he's hesitant, kiss his neck and tell him that if he doesn't like it, you'll toss it. Trust us: That won't happen.
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